Someone once told me, what they thought was love.
"Its when you close your eyes, and that's the only person you see."
Ive often thought of that remark, and wasn't too sure if it was wrong or right.
Then it hit me yesterday as i sat in meditation.
Love isn't an obsession, or only a constant thought.
It isnt just a feeling which comes when kissing, hugging or snuggling.
"Well then Arles!! What is it if we might ask?!"
well its simple really.
Love is not a noun, adjective or article.
Love is what it has always been,
A verb of action and concious desicion.
A choice to anger or to smile.
Love is a word of action where both parties must try.
One cannot give, and the other take.
Both parties must "do well their part."
If One is down and the other up,
A hand is given to raise the other without ask of reward.
Dishes Dirty? you clean them for that significant other.
Help needs to be given? do not offer, but just do.
A back rub, cleaning or a hug?
Service, that's the key to develope love.
Like a seed it must be given effort.
Soil to hold, minerals to build, water to supply, and sunlight to raise and cultivation of the result.
Hold to those principals and you'll do alright.
Tender care, and no abuse.
Do not take too much from love too soon,
It will end up tasting bitter in the end.
So in simple form i'll translate the plant analogy for you.
The Soil to hold is a firm place rooted in the Gospel of Christ, holding firm to sacred principals.
The Minerals and Water are of the effort given freely and small and big things done for that person.
The Sunlight just gives, not expecting anything back, but it hopes to give life and to uplift all.
And Cultivation is when the time is right, to reap what both sow.
Not too soon, for offense is near, but at the right moment when that sacred promise of marriage is in sway.
And the last part is replanting. But this time with healthier, more strong seeds of love. More fruit to be had, and more plentiful than before. So the process is repeated before the other ends to cause a continual cycle of never ending love. Love being never ending study of the Gospel, Charity and Love, Virtue and patience with the one whom that special promise of marriage has been made.
More than a thought, More than an obsession, More than what most think it is.
